Trust In The Path You Walk

Trusting in yourself and the path you walk can be a tricky thing especially if you’re going through a tricky time. Challenges arise in life it’s just a part of it, once you get that into your head you approach them differently. I strongly believe we go through things for reasons, whether that is to prepare us for a harsher challenge down the road or to make our near successes sweeter. Achieving things without tough times doesn’t make the success feel better inevitably it makes it substandard.

I have now developed a strong trust in myself which I am extremely proud of. I don’t think I’m perfect I know I will make mistakes but I trust in my ability to overcome them! I sit back sometimes and reflect on my life and think about what I have been through, what I have overcome and were I am heading. Even when I think about the bad mistakes I’ve made I always think to myself it’s irrelevant, I’m here in this present time and I have the power to make those changes TODAY!

A big portion of our time is spent questioning why we are in this situation but at the end of the day you are and you can either keep questioning it or trust in your ability to deal with it!

JUMP MAYNE!

It’s Not About The Cards Your Dealt But How Your Playing Your Cards!

Choices, choices choices! Don’t be a passenger in life learn to drive! Feeling helpless is a lack of control however you are in control you just don’t know it yet!

Everyone has 24hrs in a day equally the only difference between us is the way we spend our time due to the choices we make. There is a lot of power in realising that we are in charge of our own lives and our level of happiness.

Too often I have waited for big things in my life to occur like a holiday or graduation or getting a new job to be happy. I think the secret here is that happiness should be an everyday thing. It shouldn’t just be when something major in your life happens because they don’t come around quick enough, you’ll always be miserable.

Im CHOOSING HAPPINESS!

I think that simply trying to be happy is a great step towards increasing your happiness. I recently read, “Motivation is more of a result of doing something than it is a source to pull.” This made great sense for me and was a real eye opener! Too many times I have sat there thinking I can’t be bothered I have no motivation at all I just don’t feel good today I’ll start tomorrow (Never happens). This is where I’ve been going wrong all along! We are creatures of habit; this can be a gift or a curse. Making the first few steps towards what your trying to achieve provides the motivation you need to succeed it won’t just come to you miraculously.

Feeling like we have no control over out life leads to negative choices always remember you have a choice it’s just up to you to make the ones that make you the happiest & make a habit of it!

 

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Dealing with Disappointment

The feeling of disappointment can be one of the most exhausting emotions we have and can be perpetuated if it’s not dealt with correctly. I applied for a graduate marketing job and was super excited about the telephone interview I had schedule. I’ll admit when I have an interview I don’t always revise the company. I have been interviewing quite frequently and its quite time consuming and annoying when you put your effort in and you don’t get the job. This job however was different it had all the elements on my checklist, career progression, good salary, and so forth so I put my all into revising in attempt to secure the role. I had the telephone interview a few days later and felt it went really well however I received an email the next day saying I was unsuccessful. I was totally devastated and I’m sure many of you can relate! At the moment I feel trapped in terms of work, my bitter disappointment led to me feeling shit all week but in this disappointment I learned a few things.

Sometimes the best way of dealing with disappointment is to be disappointed, let your emotions out!  Im not saying here I sat and cried about it but I was very pissed and felt like I was going to smash something (for a few hours). This isn’t always a bad thing, letting your emotions out helps you to get rid of all that negative energy surrounding you.

Exercise is another great way of releasing your anger I should have went to the gym instead of moping around in bed all day, but at least now I see where I went wrong. Whilst moping in bed I was listening to depressing music with negative lyrics, which just amplified my mood of feeling shit. Music can influence our emotions massively so think about the songs your playing that’s another thing I learned!

Me being in bed all day didn’t really help either, we are social creatures so isolating yourself doesn’t help. I should have called a mate or a family member to talk about it, a problem shared is a problem halved. It’s always good to seek advice from others because your view of the problem is clouded by your mood. Once you have had that convo with somebody its good to sit back and think about the bigger picture and gain perspective. In my case I was unsuccessful in getting a job I wanted, hardly life threatening. Sometimes its good to flip your problems and be grateful that you even have them. In my case I should be grateful that they were interested in me and that I have a first class degree a lot of people don’t even have the chance to go to Primary school let alone University.

But for me personally this blog is more than a blog its therapy! Writing about problems allows you to think about them more clearly. Some people write about their problems and rip the paper up but me personally I like writing about it and reading what I wrote a few days later, which allows me to reflect and see how I came through it.

All in all I think that the main reason for me feeling so disappointed was the fact that I put my all in. Thinking about it now it should never be a reason for disappointment. Unconsciously I wasn’t trying enough so at least if things didn’t go my way I could at least say fuck it I didn’t try anyways which is extremely petty. Now I feel proud that I tried my best even though I “failed” I gave it a bloody good go! As one door closes another one opens always remember that!

 

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Scars Will Scab

 

What cripples us most in the face of uncertainty?

For me personally and many others I’m sure it is the fear of being judged. Where does this innate paranoia originate? Is it because of past negative experiences? Part of it probably is but ask yourself: Where has the fear of being judged got me? Has it ever resulted in a positive outcome? The chances are it has never ever done that for you.  The worst part about the fear of other people’s judgment is that you become consumed with judging yourself, usually very harshly.

I mean this in the kindest way possible but people out there do not give a shit about the fact that you are wearing odd socks today or you approached a woman and got turned down. People are way too busy thinking about their own lives to severely worry about yours and that’s the harsh truth.

Upon reading this you may think Aaron you baldy I thought this was a blog about positivity but wait hear me out. In knowing that people do not care about you as much as you think why on earth would you care about their opinion?  It’s an extremely liberating outlook and mindset that allows you to truly express yourself without the fear of “Caring.” Taking a risk and being yourself is what life’s all about it allows you to expand your comfort zone further and further making things you used to worry about appear minor. The greatest part about being yourself is you filter out the people who you genuinely do not get along with which is not a bad thing, not everybody likes everybody!

So whether the outcome is good or bad it doesn’t matter. Nobody cares except you anyway and to be quite frank you should pat yourself on the back for being yourself. When we fear being judged it’s usually because we are allowing ourselves to be vulnerable. For some reason being vulnerable is considered weak especially amongst us men. Think of it like this, we go to the gym, lift weights to break down our muscle right? Then what do we do? We go and eat shitloads of protein. Vulnerability is our bench press and experience is our protein, whether the outcome is good or bad it will always make us stronger regardless. 

At 21 years old my hairline was a mess! I was super paranoid about it. Every time the wind blew my heart sped. It might sound really trivial to a lot of people but to me it was a huge thing. One day I woke up and said you know what Fuck it my hairline is receding and I’m going to do something about. I hopped out the barber chair a bald man and never looked back since! Sure when people I haven’t seen in a while saw me they were really shocked some liked it some didn’t but at the end of the day I liked it. It was one of the most liberating things I’ve ever done! I felt so good about myself that other people’s opinions meant nothing because I did what I wanted to do!  To be very honest people gravitate to you more when you own who you are anyway so worrying about what other people think of you is completely pointless.

I’m not saying here that nobodies opinion counts those that positively contribute to your life should be heard. But at the end of the day its your life, its 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we react to it!

 

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