Learning New Stuff!

I have always liked drawing but I was never good at! As some of you may know I work in marketing and a big part of it is design, whether it be for a clients Facebook post, marketing collateral or initial creative for a new business pitch. I have always had an interest in it but never had the resources (Photoshop) to try it for myself. Luckily a colleague of mine gave it to me and since then I have become hooked!!!!

I’ m quickly finding out how useful it is and I am having great fun learning new aspects of the program too. It brought me onto think about how important it is to always be learning something new. I have a very addictive personality and I remember as a kid I’d pick things up quickly and never put them down for ages. Whether it was me learning how to Rollerblade or if it was learning the guitar (which i regrettably put down). Looking back on it now these moments were when I was at my happiest and most motivated. I’m a learner! I love the thrill of being rubbish at something and finally cracking it, it gives me such a buzz and it definitely boosts my confidence!

I have decided that I am going to go to a boxing gym and learn how to box. I have always had a fascination with the sport and loved the discipline and the honor associated with it.  I have never been the best specimen of an athlete in my life I’m of average height short arms and slightly on the chubby side but I think that because I have identified this it will help push me to go harder.

A big part of this for me and i’m sure you people is finding the time! I believe that it is strongly imperative that you brake your time down into these major categories to live a better life: work, social and you time. Even if you have to literally create an excel spreadsheet and divide your time up each week based on these categories I guarantee you will see a change in your overall mood.

 

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“The expert in anything was once a beginner”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Organization Is Control

I sincerely apologize people! I usually try to at least do one blog post a week but I admit I have fallen off. In all honesty I didn’t think it would affect me as much as it has, me not having my weekly vent has left me feeling silenced almost, so once I again I apologize to you and myself.

I think that the main reason for my inability to remain consistent has been me “Not having any time” AKA being really unorganized. At the very least my unorganized last few weeks has highlighted to me that I need to be which brings me on to the topic of this post.

Being organised is paramount! All successful people are organised. I am not only referring to people with money but that person who is a social butterfly, good at their job, that beast in the gym all of them are organised and prioritize their time successfully based on their vision of success.

Timetable your time: This encompasses all areas of your life whether you work a 9-5 or unemployed looking for work. Schedule time in for the gym, to see your mates to watch the football match on a Saturday but just make sure you have an overview of the time available to you and where you have spent it.

To do lists: Always have a daily to do list based on your timetable and make sure tasks are prioritized, for me I always deal with the hardest task first.

Use the calendar on your phone: We are always on the go! make sure your timetable and to do list is synced to your phone so you constantly adhere to what you need to be doing.

Being organised is being in control, don’t let your day run you, run your day!

 

 

 

Everyone Tells Us To Take Risks… But Why Should We?!

I read a lot of blogs and books on self development and there always seems to be a common theme: Taking risks will make your life awesome! However, at times when I haven’t felt so brave all the quotable sentences, facts and advice doesn’t really count for anything. These books and posts always say just do it and you’ll feel better and your life will be amazing and so on but when your stuck in a rut this hardly pushes you to take a risk and come out of your comfort zone. This isn’t an assault to all of you out there encouraging people to take risks this is just my opinion.

For me and I’m sure many others, I don’t tend to do things unless I have a rough understanding of the repercussions, whats the gain?  So this post is just a few reasons why we should take these risks.

Our mind plays tricks on us but in order to re-frame our mindset we need to take risk on. Your mind works in a funny way, it can hang onto the negative and perpetuate the fear of uncertainty. It always seems worse than it actually is. Even when we aren’t feeling brave doing brave things that makes us seem brave tricks ourselves to thinking we are. Fake it till you make it because like attracts like. If we keep on taking risks we will be more willing to take more.

Life in essence is one big learning curve, a process, a journey and the lessons we learn from the risks we take may lead us on a new path!

Ever heard that phrase “If its not worth fighting for, its not worth having” I’m pretty sure you have; Success won’t fall in your lap — you have to pursue it. The only way to pursue it is to try new ways of getting to your achieved goal if you persist doing the same thing and getting the same unwanted outcome, you’ve got to try new things! The reward seems greater as well because its an area your not used to challenging so when you think about it, it’s always a win win. It’s weird, I’ve always come across Edison’s quote “I haven’t failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work” and thought WHATEVER MATE! I’d be mega pissed if I tried something 10,000 times and it didn’t work, but now I totally get it. In a very strange way failure can motivate you which brings me back to thinking every step is a step forward. You become confident in your ability to fail which only happens once the failing starts!

 

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-If you win you’ll be happy. If you lose you’ll be wise-

 

Trials And Tribulations Of Finishing Uni

One of the best moments in my life was graduating Uni with a 1st class degree. Me?! I managed to achieve a 1st?! I busted my ass day and night and sacrificed so much and got what I deserved! Finding a job can’t be that hard now can it I’m surely going to own a Ferrari :D…… Well you bald mug you were wrong! I have always been a motivated person, strong willed and resilient but my time after University made me seriously question these qualities I previously thought I had.

My time after Uni sounded a little like this:

Mate 1: “Aaron I got a job in Accounting 23k starting!”

Me: “Well done mate you deserve it”

Mate 2: “Aaron I got a job in Marketing 20k and there paying for me to study further”

Me: “Well done darling you deserve it”

Mate3 :”Aaron i’m working in china in recruitment 25k and accommodation paid for”

Me: “Amazing I hope you have a fantastic time”

Mate 4: “Aaron”

Mate 5: “Aaron”

Mate 6: “Aaron”

 

Hold on! Where the fuck is my amazing job?!!!!!! I’m not an envious person but I did really well, worked my ass off and people who didn’t are in amazing jobs progressing with their lives and i’m on pause like a scratched DVD. It wasn’t as if I wasn’t trying either, Id apply for ten jobs a day and trust me I have the job log on excel to prove it.

My money started getting low (practically non existent) I was at home bored, my life felt like a complete mess. I almost began to feel like I was owed something! I wanted a career in marketing and felt as though it was unattainable and I should just pack it in and get an admin role somewhere and just do a job I’d hate. Many people told me to do that as well! but I thought to myself…. Think how many times people told Obama he couldn’t be president and i’m pretty sure he’s the geezer in the white house at the mo! So I persisted and persisted and my breakthrough came!

I’m a strong believer that there’s a reason for everything whether it be good or bad and when things come hard they taste that much sweeter. I strongly believe the hard spell I had after Uni helped me to become super motivated and learn as much as I can to propel myself to the next level. It’s easy to play the victim role and question “Why is this happening to me?” but this achieves absolutely nothing, ACTION does.

Weather your dream is big or small just keep at it never let anyone sway you!

-Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent-

 

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Getting Back Into The Gym

YEEESSSSSS HOLIDAYYY BOOKED!!!

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I do not want to be this guy! I have totally, totally fallen off the horse in terms of working out. I use all the excuses in the world, I’m to busy with work, I’m to busy with my blog, I’m to busy with my job search….. YEAH RIGHT! Great excuses! As I said in a previous post it’s imperative to look after yourself!! If I was to prioritize exercise as much as work or my blog I’d probably look like this:

 

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But you know what it’s normal to fall off the horse sometimes but I just haven’t got back on it in a while lol!

 

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As you can see I was by no means a body builder but I was very content with my size and overall health.So for all you great people out there (and myself) here are a few tips to get your ass back in the gym:

Set goals ( what are you trying to improve? what’s your goal weight? how much do you want to lift?)

Workout plan

Food log

Prep meals (Bulk cooking)

Drink water (Before and after each meal)

6 meals a day- (Eat little but often)

Start with big exercises (Compound exercises like squats use more muscles thus making you lose weight faster and after your workout)

Always have the tunes! (Have a specific workout playlist and keep it fresh)

Track performance (From start weight, to pictures, to gains)

Take out old clothes- (The scale can trick you so use that old pair of jeans you can’t get into anymore as a measuring tool)

Avoid Alcohol

Bring your gym bag to work and make a point of telling people your going to the gym that day

 

 

I’m starting my journey back into the gym this week and I’ll keep you posted with my progress!

 

– Stay blessed, Workout, Less stress! –

Infinity Pro-Coach!

So I was surfing WordPress as I normally do and one blog I repeatedly check out is the “Infinity Pro-Coach” blog written by David. It’s literally amazing I had to let everybody know about it! He has immense self development articles and really knows what he is talking about as he has a solid theoretical background through his studies in Mental Health.

He provides his readers with phenomenal strategies, tools and perspectives to help you reach your infinite potential. I thoroughly enjoy his blog as he provides sound information on a range of topics surrounding self-development, his passion for the subject transcends through his writing. A work colleague of mine told me about a book she has been hooked on called “The Chimp Paradox” and sure enough David covered it with an excellent piece!

This is a blog to watch, definitely check it out and show some love: https://infinitypro.net/

 

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Have fun reading!

 

My Key Takeouts From The Art Of War!

“A wise general makes a point of foraging on the enemy”

Take what you can from people and experiences.

“Sun Tzu said: In the practical art of war, the best thing of all is to take the enemy’s country whole and intact; to shatter and destroy it is not so good. So, too, it is better to recapture an army entire than to destroy it, to capture a regiment, a detachment or a company entire than to destroy them”

So don’t burn them bridges even if your not getting on with someone don’t shatter what you had previously!

“Hence to fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting”

Be persuasive, cunning and tactful and often you don’t even have to fight.

“If equally matched, we can offer battle; if slightly inferior in numbers, we can avoid the enemy; if quite unequal in every way, we can flee from him”

Pick your battles wisely.

“He will win who, prepared himself”

Make plans.

“Hence the saying: If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle”

Know and understand what you’re up against.

“There are not more than five musical notes, yet the combinations of these five give rise to more melodies than can ever be heard”

Don’t over complicate stuff, you have all you need to achieve.

“The quality of decision is like the well-timed swoop of a falcon which enables it to strike and destroy its victim”

Be true and decisive in your decisions don’t be sitting on the fence.

“For it is the nature of a log or stone to remain motionless on level ground, and to move when on a slope; if four-cornered, to come to a standstill, but if round shaped, to go rolling down. Thus the energy developed by good fighting men is as the momentum of a round stone rolled down a mountain thousands of feet in height. So much on the subject of energy”

Motivation comes from moving and actually doing things.

“Do not repeat the tactics which have gained you one victory, but let your methods be regulated by the infinite variety of circumstances”

Don’t do the same shit and expect different results.

“Let your plans be dark and impenetrable as night, and when you move, fall like a thunderbolt”

Don’t make your plans known.

“A soldier’s spirit is keenest in the morning; by noonday it has begun to flag; and in the evening, his mind is bent only on returning to camp”

Get your biggest tasks done as soon as possible in the day.

“If in training soldiers commands are habitually enforced, the army will be well-disciplined; if not, its discipline will be bad”

Good habits are important.

“The skillful tactician may be likened to the shuaijan. Now the shuai-jan is a snake that is found in the Chung mountains. Strike at its head, and you will be attacked by its tail; strike at its tail, and you will be attacked by its head; strike at its middle, and you will be attacked by head and tail both”

Don’t put all your eggs in one basket be multidimensional, cover all angles.

“If the enemy leaves a door open, you must rush in”

If the opportunity ever so slightly presents itself take it!

“Move not unless you see an advantage”

Focus on the positives and you’ll keep moving.

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Reading List for the next few Months

For Somebody who loves to write I hardly read books… As you all know Iv recently been trying to  give up smoking and I have remained cigarette-less :). I have decided to really dive into reading as its something I do genuinely enjoy but “haven’t had the time” to do. I am going to read a book every month I think that’s a decent enough time frame and these are the first three on my list:

Any recommendations would be more than welcomed in the comments section and I plan to incorporate the main takeaways from each book in my new blog posts!

 

 

 

Cold Turkey Time!

At 16 I smoked my first cigarette trying to impress an older girl who probably doesn’t even remember my name now. Fast forward 7 years and I still smoke! The amount of money I’ve wasted is probably ridiculous! Actually I’m going to do the math! £4.50 (10 pack of mayfair kingsize cigarettes)  x 7 (week total) is £31.50 a week. £31.50 x 4 (4 weeks in a month) = £126 a month, x 12 (to find out the year cost) is £1512. £1512 x 7 (for the total years I’ve been smoking) is £10,584…….. As Im writing this I feel physically sick!! Are you fucking kidding me?!

Lets see how much time I’ve wasted as well!  lets say it takes me 2 minutes to smoke a cigarette x 10 (amount of cigarettes I smoke a day) = 20 minutes. If I x the 20 minutes  by 7 = 140 minutes per week. To find out how many minutes in a month I do 140 x 4 = 560 minutes a month x 12 = 6720 mins a year. If I take that total x 7  (total amount of years I’ve smoked) = 47040 minutes. There is 1440 minutes in a day so if I take the 7 year total and divide it by 1440 I get 32.6 days just smoking…..

Are you having a laugh?! so over 7 years I have spent approximately £10,584 and 32/33 days just on smoking cigarettes?! that is absolutely atrocious!

I have tried to quit many times before the longest I’ve ever quit for was a year….. I went to Amsterdam and it all went downhill. But it hit me today, we always do things for a reason so I asked myself why do I smoke?  To be very honest there were two reasons. The first was it was a release it’s always been a getaway. The second was BOREDOM… when I was bored it gave me something to do, when I think about it its absolutely stupid! I think the biggest discovery from questioning myself  was that it was a real getaway. Instead of dealing with problems head on I’d run away from them and be comforted by a cigarette almost like a dummy for a baby.

This feeling of getting away is prevalent in my drinking habits also I’m sure for many others as well. When I sat there and asked myself, when do I drink and usually its when I’m mega pissed off, socialising or at a party. I don’t think drinking socially or at a party is a problem but drinking alone when your pissed off is. I suppose drinking and smoking has always been a coping mechanism for me but really it isn’t because your not actually facing your problems your running away from them.

I have been cold turkey for two days now and I am surprised how much I am actually addicted to smoking. Ive been sweating, feeling tired all the time, feeling depressed and generally feeling very shit. The second day hasn’t been too bad but I keep getting thoughts like just have one but I’ve stayed strong and resisted. Ive always felt like I’ve never had a choice when it comes to smoking “All my mates smoke! How am I going to survive?  What about when your in the smoking area of a club?  What about when your having a drink?” But you know what they are all excuses, I was never born with a cigarette in my mouth and when I think about all the time and money I’ve wasted its defiantly not worth it! I’ve learnt over time that the small changes we make can lead to bigger ones as well so this is just the start for me and I hope it inspires a new start for you!

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

 

 

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Fuck This Shit Can Change Your Life!

Have you ever had a moment where you’ve just thought “Fuck this shit!” yeah I definitely thought you did!  I’ve had one recently. You sit back and think you know what I’ve given all I can to this and I’m done! I’m finished! No more! To some it sounds like giving up but to me it sounds like CHANGE. In life some people plod along comfortably, scared of what could be because they already know what they have and on the other hand you have people living a life they don’t desire but somewhere down the line my bet is they both have a “Fuck this shit” moment.

I’m not saying here to act irrationally, I wouldn’t advise you to karate kick your boss because he keeps pissing you off no no no. The key to this is SELF HONESTY. It’s all well and good having a positive outlook, this blog is all about positivity but it’s a self improvement one also and sometimes we do need to assess our situation and be honest with ourselves.

I’m a writer so I wrote my “Fuck this shit” moment all down; from not being able to drive to not being able to afford go on holiday this year and the rest! The funny thing is I’m sure many of us have the same issues but in that moment we feel so hard done by and we feel like we’re the only person on the planet who has these feelings of frustration when in reality were not and there are plenty more worse off. That severe feeling of frustration usually appears because were thinking unconsciously, letting our heads get the better of us by blowing things all out of proportion.

The “Fuck this shit” moment can only be effective when you think about your issues consciously that’s why I find it best to write it down and look at it a few minutes later so you can attack your problems. I find writing it out allows me to get it off my chest and revisiting it a few minutes later allows me to gain perspective and logic in order to really assess how I can move forward.

I think Actually I know, some people have changed there lives dramatically for the better by really understanding and listening to what they truly want, it’s easy to allow the monotonous everyday to muffle the sound but this sudden realization really helps to discover what you truly desire!

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